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eNEWSLETTER
February 2005

Our Mission Statement:
"Providing a range of innovative professional services, empowering our clients to positively address issues affecting their lives."

Welcome to the February edition of the CCS eNewsletter.

We’d like to congratulate the people who have been attending our Anger Management Workshop on a job well done. The last session has been completed and everyone’s hard work ensured the workshop was a great success. We’ve already been getting requests for another workshop so if you weren’t able to attend this time around keep watching this space!

Valentine’s Day has just been and gone and we thought we’d take a closer look at the singletons out there to discover if the dateless are really as desperate as some would have us believe. The Bridget Jones movies and television shows like Sex and the City, have highlighted the experiences of many of today’s single people but do they tell the whole story? Is the heart of every single person secretly yearning for a life partner or is it possible to be content and fulfilled without being half of a couple?

“Singletons” VS “Smug Marrieds”

Our society places great value on romantic love, sex, marriage and babies. This became evident when researching for this newsletter. Apart from the usual religious discussions about the validity of celibacy, most of the other information on the net was about how to avoid being single. People who are single are looked at with sympathy if they are searching for a partner (á la Bridget Jones) and great suspicion if they are not. In fact, in these modern times, sexual promiscuity is considered by many to be more acceptable than celibacy. The reality is, that more and more people are choosing to remain single, replacing marriage or “coupledom” with platonic friendship and why not? Which person is healthier; the one who is content to be alone, comfortable within his or her own skin and is surrounded by friends or the one who is so desperately afraid of being alone that he or she goes from one bad relationship (and bed) to another? As for marriage it’s a bit like that little girl with the curl; when it’s good it’s very, very good but when it’s bad it’s horrid. That’s not to say that problems within marriage can’t be resolved but we’ll leave that discussion for a whole other newsletter!

Why are some people so frightened of being alone?

Humans are generally social creatures; they need other people around them. The prospect of living a lifetime without a companion can be daunting, especially when old age begins to dawn and the community on which we could once look to for support has degenerated so much that many people now cross the street in order to avoid speaking to one another. Some people believe that by getting married and having children they are ensuring that they won’t grow old alone. Of course that kind of reasoning is naïve, for life offers no guarantees even for the most careful of souls.

The Grass is Always Greener

It takes great courage to strike out on your own, taking full responsibility for your own decisions and the consequent results of those decisions, but with full responsibility comes great freedom and being on your own doesn’t have to mean being alone. A person who is single can have fulfilling relationships and a dependable support system just as a person with a partner and family can. Ask any single person about the drawbacks of being single and they’re bound to be able to come up with a few, but they will also express a great many positives. The same is true for those people with partners. As long as we stay true to ourselves and don’t allow fear to be a motivator in our decision making we’ll find peace in whatever situation we find ourselves in.

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Until next time then...
"I like being single. I’m always there when I need me." - W.M. Lewis

 

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